Querent’s Question: When he returns will he still be happy with me?
The Querent asks “will my partner still be happy with me” after he returns from a trip away where he is involved in various activities and interests. These, for various reasons, will never be part of the Querent’s life. She worries that when he returns he will no longer be interested in her because she can’t participate in these new or old but expanded interests.
The Wheel of Fortune is turning and it’s among all positive cards so good, positive things are on the horizon.
Your partner is the King of Cups – benevolent, kind, loving and loyal and very family oriented. You are his family and he is strongly connected to you. He may at times appear distant as he goes inwards with his thoughts and feelings.
The Justice card suggests he may have temptations or discover new interests that you are not part of. However he is fair and reasonable, realizing that you are still the same person he left. He sees that new interests are no reason to lose a relationship that has been working so well.
The clarifier for the Justice card is the Sun. It’s shining brightly. All is well. The Sun is the card of happy, successful relationships and contentment.
3 major arcana out of 4 cards and the 4th is a court card. This is a very strong message of affirmation. Perhaps, far from thinking he doesn’t need you any more, the old saying ‘absence makes the heart grow fonder’ could well apply to this situation.
The partner’s writing was not available so I couldn’t use it to see how he might behave. I have the Querent’s writing which shows how she might respond. It also shows perhaps why the question was asked in the first place since the cards would suggest there is no problem at all.
The most noticeable thing about this writing is the far right slant. The Querent is very emotional (far right slant.) This means she tends to think through her feelings, which could explain what seems to be unfounded worry about her relationship.
She is however, also quite analytical (‘v’ formations at the baseline.) After the reading, having had the positives pointed out she is likely to analyze is and realize that yes, she was over reacting. Perhaps now her emotions will be in the direction of happiness.
She does have a positive mind set in general (straight downward strokes with no curve.) Mild optimism (slight upward slant in the lines of writing) shows in her outlook.
Loyalty (round i dot), honesty ( ‘a’ and ‘o’ with no loops) and open mindededness (space within the lower case ‘e’) will help her accept the reading and realize that all is going to be OK. Intuition (gaps between letters within script) also plays a part in her reasoning.
She has enough self-confidence (tall ‘t’s and t-bars more than halfway up the t-stem) to accept that he is probably perfectly happy with her.
All these things play their part. However the overwhelming reason for the question is her strong emotional outlook (far right slant) on life. Once assurance comes that all is well that emotion will most likely change from concern to joy. It will help her be ready to welcome him home with overflowing affection and happiness (far right slant).
So, how does GraphoTherapy work with Tarot? In a nutshell, GraphoTherapy is “Change your Handwriting, Change your Life.”
Handwriting is brain writing. It is not the hand that
decides how you write. It’s your brain.
And your sees and acts according to your personality. If something feels
natural, it belongs to your personality. If it doesn’t, it doesn’t. However it
can be made to … and that is what Graphotherapy is all about.
Tarot + Handwriting = ?
But first let’s go back to Tarot and Handwriting. The Tarot
has told the events, past, present and likely to occur if you keep going in the
present direct. Your Handwriting has told you what you have going for you to
make the best of what is coming, what is in the present and even how to deal
with what is past. And it had told you in what ways you are inclined to behave
that would jeopardize positive outcomes and make worse difficult ones.
But what if you don’t have what you need to cope with what
is coming up? What if your Handwriting shows that what you really need, you
just don’t have? Or what if it will probably be OK with what you have, but it
could be so much better if you could respond in a different way?
That’s where GraphoTherapy comes in.
If you change your writing to include the traits you want to
have and banish those you don’t want to have you will start to behave in
accordance with the new traits that are now part of your personality. Of course
it doesn’t happen overnight and that is where the two levels of GraphoTherapy –
conscious and subconscious – come into play.
While you are still deliberately writing with the new
strokes, it is your conscious mind that is making it happen. The new trait, the new behavior, is not part
of your personality yet. But as you practice, you are focusing on what you are
doing and how you are writing. Your focus is on the strokes for the new
personality traits that you are adding. And as anyone who has even learned
anything about the Law of Attraction knows what you focus on expands.
Focus, Focus, Focus
So as you practice, as you focus on the new trait or traits that you are adding to your handwriting, you are focused on them. Not only will you notice as you write the necessary strokes, but you will also notice in your behavior whether you are or are not behaving in accordance with these new personality trait additions or subtractions. You want to act in the new way. That is why you are adding or removing these strokes from your handwriting.
So you, with your heightened awareness of these traits and the behavior associated with them, will notice much, much more than you previously would have, when you are acting in the new way or the old way. And if you find yourself acting in the old way, probably you will immediately do what you can to change it to the new way. After all, you have chosen to change and if you notice yourself not doing this, you most likely will take steps to make sure that you do what is needed to act in the new way you have decided to be.
That is the conscious level of GraphoTherapy. It is still
not part of your natural behavior so you have to make the change ‘manually’,
but because your focus is on it, you will notice and have the opportunity to
make the change at any moment.
And here is the Magic…
Then we get to the subconscious part of GraphoTherapy and
this is where the magic really happens.
The subconscious mind is programmed by spaced repetition. This means that if you repeat your new handwriting strokes over and over again, with time between each practice session, after a while your subconscious accepts that this is how you now want to be. It then takes over the job of directing both your writing and your behavior in accordance with what you have been showing it in your practice.
So the strokes you have been practicing writing become your natural way of writing. When these strokes are your natural way of writing, the behavior that goes along with these strokes becomes your natural way of behaving. This is when you have made the complete change and now you are who you have been working to become.
Here is an example
Let’s look at an example. Let’s say you have very day to day
goals. This means that you can really do a whole lot more than you think you
can, but you are not aware of this and don’t have the confidence to step out
and go for it. The trait in handwriting that shows underestimating yourself is
the t-bars placed really low on the t-stem.
Your Tarot reading has shown that you are going to have some
amazing opportunities opening up for you. But do you have the confidence to
take advantage of them? You decide to engage in GraphoTherapy to help.
The stroke for ambitious goals is the t-bar at or near the top of the t-stem, so you decide to practice making your t-bars much higher. As you practice, every time you write a t-bar high up on the t-stem, you aware consciously aware that this is your goals that you are raising up high.
Conscious & Subconscious GraphoTherapy
This is when conscious GraphoTherapy is working. It is bringing to your awareness every time you write that you want to go after higher goals. So you start looking at how to do that and start moving towards that goal.
Once you find that you are writing those t-bars up high
quite without thinking about it that means you have now completed the change
and high goals as well as high t-bars are now part of your natural way of
writing and being. Subconscious GraphoTherapy has taken over. You have
succeeded. You will now start to gradually notice that you aim higher without
even really thinking about it. It has become your natural way of looking at
The Tarot told you about opportunities and your Handwriting
and GraphoTherapy have given you the tools to make the very best of whatever
opportunities come your way. They have worked together to create the change you
wanted. You have made “Change your Handwriting, Change your Life” work for you.
And here’s the Bonus
And there is even a bonus.
If at a later date you find your t-bars sliding back down the t-stem a
bit, if you just practice pushing them up again, you have the chance to get
your goals back up there again before the slide starts to show in your behavior
because it shows in the writing before it shows in your actions.
There are many, many opportunities to make changes to your life by making changes to your handwriting. However, raising your goals is one I can not only vouch for on behalf of many of my clients, I can also vouch for it personally.
This is one of the very first changes I made to my writing when I first started to study Graphology and GraphoTherapy. So I can tell you from firsthand knowledge that it works. A couple of times over the 25+ years since I first raised my t-bars and my goals, I have seen the t-bar start to slip a little bit down. Each time I have practiced again till it stayed perched on top of the t-stem naturally again. And it works. Not only have my t-bars soared but my confidence in my abilities has soared every bit as high.
It can work on whatever change you want to make
Perhaps goals are not what you would work on. There are
countless options. Whatever you need to get what you want. Whomever you want to be to achieve what you
want to achieve. Whatever the Tarot tells you about that you don’t want to miss
out on … or if it’s a difficult situation showing in the cards, whatever you
need to avoid it… either way, your handwriting and GraphoTherapy can help you
What would you like to change? Contact me if you would like a Tarot and Handwriting Reading.
Quick answer: Querents love Tarot and Handwriting!
When I started doing the Tarot/ Handwriting combination I
was enthusiastic about it because I could see how much each added to the other,
but I was not sure how other people would view it. Fast forward to today. I
have had so much encouragement, so many wonderful reviews that I just have to
tell you that it not only works but it is extremely well received.
The client still gets the full, unchanged tarot reading. You
do it just like you’ve always done. And if you like you can do it completely
from start to finish before you even look at the writing. My own preference is when
I do smaller readings, such as three cards I will do the entire reading before
looking at the cards. Or if I am doing a reading with more cards, I will stop
periodically to look at the handwriting. But as you get used to using the
combination you will find you just go from one to the other quite naturally as
you feel the need. You get in the way of it quite easily.
How this helps
You tell your querent something that the cards say then you
look to their writing to see if there is anything there to take advantage of a
good situation or to help them deal with a problematic one and you use that to
encourage them. This way the querent is not left just knowing what might be
coming down the road, but they also have had it brought to their awareness what
they have in their personality that will help.
Most people already know a great deal about themselves, but
to have someone else remind them that they have this or that strength can be so
empowering. Now it’s not just they themselves that think it. Someone else has
recognized it in them too, and has pointed it out as being of positive use in
this predicted situation. The same goes for negative traits, such as
procrastination. If the cards say it’s good to move fast, to get on with
things, being reminded gently, from the handwriting, that they have a tendency
to put things off, might just be the trigger they need to make sure they don’t
put things of this time around.
Empowering your Querents
I find that people take very seriously the traits I point
out to them and will discuss them at great length and how that can be put to
use in the situations shown by the cards. They often will consider a
personality trait or traits that I have mentioned and come up with their own
suggestion of how this trait or these traits can be put to use at this time or
to help in some way. This is excellent since it empowers them. They no longer
feel like things are just happening to them, but they feel they have the
ability to take control and guide things. It gives them confidence. And the
fact that they are coming up with more ideas shows that as things develop for
them, this new awareness of their strengths, or in the case of something like
procrastination, awareness of a weakness, will heighten their ability to
succeed in just about any situation that occurs.
This is particularly true when the reading suggests
difficult times ahead. I have had, as I’m sure you have had, querents who end
up in tears when the cards show them things they don’t want to have happen, or
difficulties they don’t want to have to face.
Give them hope
By showing them what in their writing they have that will
get them through these times, and perhaps even make it possible to change some
things about what will occur, gives them hope.
The cards can give them hope too, of course, but the
difference is that the cards,
should they come back for another
reading, might tell them more bad news or suggest other problems on the
horizon. It is always uncertain what the cards will tell. They will reliably
tell what the situation is, but that for most people is always changing, so the
readings are always changing too. But their handwriting shows who they are deep
down inside and that will not change, or at least only very gradually over
time. So if more problems arise, whether or not they come back for another
reading, they have had it brought to their awareness what strengths they have
and they will then be conscious that these can help them through the next
Tarot + Handwriting = Success
And of course, just as with the cards, the handwriting does
not only show problem related things, or problem solving traits. When taking on
new adventures, new projects, changing one’s life in any way, the strengths,
the positives, the success traits someone has are what will take them to new
heights. So when all looks wonderful in the cards, the writing can add
encouragement to that by showing that everything needed for success is already
inside the querent. Or, if there is anything that might hold them back, that is
there too waiting to be revealed with the option of dealing with it ahead of
So to me, Tarot and Handwriting go hand in hand. The complement and support each other all the way through. They don’t just give more information together; they give more information and empower the querent.